My Biggest Business Mistake

It's my born day. As you get older you reflect. I wanted to reflect on my lessons learned from mistakes I've made.

It happens, those darn mistakes that we make that set us back. I’ve made them, many people make them, but you know what, it’s okay. I wanted to share with my readers today as I take you on this journey of small business entrepreneurship Gods way one of my greatest business mistakes.

First of all, I never want to give off that I have “MADE” it. Truth is, we’re just getting started with where I see our family business going. Honestly, the only reason I started this blog about my journey is because I get asked SO many questions on a daily basis. I wanted to use this platform as a way to share with you all some lessons I’ve learning and AM learning along the way.  We have multiple businesses running under our household and one of them we’re running as a “test” business. Surprisingly, it’s becoming one of our most profitable businesses which leads me to my biggest mistake I made and I see others making as well.

 

So, what it is? Focusing on what you love before you profit AND trying to plan without consulting God. 

 

Profiting is so important in being an entrepreneur. That’s why we do it, right? If that is the case why do we build systems and business that only WE can do. Why do we focus on a small part of our business and limit it based upon how much WE can do. My biggest business mistake was thinking I can do it all. As a person who knows what she wants and how I want things to be done, I got to a point where I thought I have to learn this and do it myself because I know how it should turn out the best. Right? Wrong. Eventually, I bruised my head good enough to realize I needed a team. Not only did I need a team, I needed to manage the goals of the team. I needed to learn to trust and delegate where people had talents far beyond my own. We all have gifts and talents that suite and serve us but we can’t do it all. We can't even do half of it effectively. We need others to help us. So what are the areas for me that I got the most help in:

1.)Marketing & Advertising: I know a little bit, but marketing is an art. I’ve gained some basic understanding but there are people out there that do this with ease. I like working smarter not harder so one of my first hires was a person to help me in this area.

2.)Branding: I was the QUEEN of DIY when it came to branding. Problem is I was HORRIBLE at it. LOL! I laugh now because it was a disaster and anyone that has been following me for awhile knows my path...whew! No judgement lol! I FINALLY broke and got help. This website is an example. See the link in my footer if you need help. She’s amazing.

3.)Administrative task: My issue with administrative task was not that I couldn’t do it, it was that it was taking up SO much time to do that I just didn’t have. Being present with my daughter, family outings and cooking dinner daily is important to me. In order for us to run multiple businesses under one roof we HAD to get administrative help. A great place to start is Upwork.com. Just make sure you choose someone that has already worked and has high ratings. Takes a bit of trust but it will be AMAZING if you can find the right person.

4.)Business Coach / Mentor: I've gone through a few and I can tell you all coaches aren't created equal! Think about what you need, where you are and how to get there. If your just starting out and have a limited budget, seek a business coach that is just a little bit farther than you. Later on, get a better one. There is no law that says "thou shalt not change business coaches" Lol...it's okay. Find one based on your budget, needs and goals. 

Finally, don't ever, ever, ever run ahead of God. He knows the future and sister/brother it's in your best interest to follow Him. Check with Him and get a GOOD understanding of what He's saying. Not just your interpretation or what you think He's saying. Take your time to listen, adjust and ask again! Another scar I have, as I've mentioned before is running ahead of him and boy did that one hurt.  

Learn from me. Don't make my same mistakes and like always...let's go higher! 😘

A Cure For Burnout- Unplug

We live in a day and age where we are glued to our phones, social media on YouTube, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and the others. It honestly can become too much at times definitely as a business owner with a family and is involved with your church community.  Your family needs you the most and God wants to speak to you, but how often do we miss our quiet time with God yet make sure to post something online. I can admit, I’ve done it. (Insert cringe) I hate when I do it, but when I do, I see the need to unplug.  When I sense myself getting short with my husband or with other people, that is my sign that I am on the brink of burn out.

If I can be really honest, at first I was having a HARD time unplugging because most, about 80% of my businesses is ran online. This year that number will go up as we are doing things a little different. With that being said, I feel obligated to log on and check my stats on this, update my Facebook fan on my business website, do a live video, post a picture on IG. It can be A LOT! My fear is that my daughter will grow up thinking, being on your phone all the time is the normal way of life and while it is definitely a huge part of our society, face to face communication is STILL important. Unplugging is so necessary! I’m a work in progress in this area to be honest. I still haven’t found a way to do enough and not feel like I was abandoning my customer base.

You all know I am big on balance. But even at times, I find that I need to re-calibrate. Things can get out of hand fast but learning to unplug is so key to managing your time, your emotions, etc.

With all that being said, I am working on a few courses for you all that will help you get the income you want on your terms and what to do with that income to keep on growing. Keep an eye out, my goal is to have it ready for you by September 2017. You can sign up for our email list or by clicking on the contact link and letting me know that you want to be added to our list.

This blog is not answer to your problems, but more me saying, I feel you and let's go do this thing called life together.   Let's go higher together. 😘

Where Am I? Am I Distracted?

Focus: (v) (of a person or their eyes) adapt to the prevailing level of light and become able to see clearly (Webster dictionary)

Truth is, at times I get distracted. My most recent distraction has come in the form of routine. In order to have any type of sanity with my home life / mom life / wife life, I have to establish some sort of routine. For me, routines can be boring. I try to intentionally schedule in moments of spontaneity in order to stir my creativity but honestly, sometimes that is not possible. Other times, my distractions come from what I called the “Shiny Object Syndrome”.  I get it. Trust me I do and it took me a long time to even admit this is something I ever struggled with. I have done MANY things and been involved with a ton of opportunities, but as great as that has been for me, it has not helped me stay focus. When I get distracted I tend to question my journey. I ask if I’m doing the right things. I seek God for answers He has already given me. What I have learned is how to bounce back from being distracted. This time around I tried something different and I want to encourage anyone that may, like me, feel distracted at times.

1.)    I admitted to myself that I am distracted. This self-confession is so good for the soul. It increases your self-awareness and helps you give yourself grace.

2.)     Now that I realize where I am, I ask myself, what do I need to refocus? Inspirational books, conferences, speakers, or artistic expression are ways I get my focus back. My favorite places to find inspiration are:

a.       Podcast (there are tons out there that are really good. Try to listen to at least one per week, most likely on a Sunday/Monday; begin the week off right)

b.      Magazines: I like magazines because they aren’t books. They don’t require the long-term commitment of a book. I try to get a variety of magazines in the industries that appeal to me.

c.       Music: LIKE YES! Music has an amazing abilityto get me back on track. It’s the right track, with the right words conveying the whispers of my heart.

d.      Museums: I have no agenda. I just want to go and look and be inspired. The questions I often ask what was the artist thinking when they created this piece?

e.      Other people: I thoroughly enjoy deep conversation. Not all people do, but when I find someone that does, it is VERY inspirational for me

f. The word of God. I personally enjoy reading The Message version of the bible because it feels like I am reading a letter from a distant friend. Such an easy read and understand. 

3.)    Make a plan. If you are anything like myself, plans get me REALLY focused. I find when my plans change or I do not re-visit my plans it is hard to keep focus. I use Lara Casey’s PowerSheets to keep and set my goals. Feel free to find them here.

4.)    Stretch Yourself: Nothing great is found within your comfort zone right? So do something that you know will make you uncomfortable.  For me, it is meeting new people and allowing them in my inner circle. That is HARD for me. My trust levels with people are still kind sketchy, but over time I’m learning that not everyone is bad, mean or have ulterior motives. 

5.)    Find joy in the simple things. My daughters smile. I can’t explain the joy she gives me and inspires me at the same time.

6.)    Write your thoughts out on paper. Get a Journal or start blog.

If you are distracted, try one of those things. Whatever it takes, stay focused on what really matters. Let go of anything that is taking up too much of your time. The worst thing is a whole year going by or even half a year, and you realized you didn’t accomplish half the things you set out to accomplish. It's not about getting it done perfect, it's about moving along (progress). As Lara says, "Progress not Perfection".  Time goes by so fast and it is important that we maximize our days. Until next time lovelies……

Is Your Business Killing You? (Your Health Matters)

Today I wanted to share with you all the importance of being healthy while growing your business. All too often I see business-owners pulling all-nighters while drinking Mountain Dew or 5 Hour energy drinks all for the sake of the sale. I get it, and have done it myself but is that healthy? Not at all. Before I had my baby, I use to do crazy stuff all the time like that, but after having her my priorities changed. Not only did I want to be a healthier person, but I wanted to also know that I can enjoy the fruits of my labor long-term. Is it amazing to get a million dollar contract and cancer diagnoses in the same day? No. But it happens ALL the time. People get these awesome deals and the sacrifice is their health.

I want to encourage my readers to slow down. Find balance. I was sharing with a client recently that I only work on my stationery company 2.5 days out of the week. This is outside of regular posting and marketing. The actually hand labored work is only done a few days a week. For me this works because I want to put my marriage and family first and I want to cook healthy meals. I want to have mental, physical and emotional balance. Being on vacation this past week has revealed  yet again how important it is to focus on yourself and have soulcare often. The soul consist of the mind, the will and the emotions……and that needs tending in order for you to function at 100%. Your family, your friends, and your business needs you at 100%. 

Let me share this with you. In 2011 I was diagnosed with a Pituitary tumor. A few years before that my hair started falling out. Looking back now, I can see that I was under an IMMENSE amount of stress. My environment was making me sick, my mental state was making me sick and my out of balanced life-style was making me sick. What is your body telling you?

Another example.....while on vacation, my skin cleared up to a point that I hadn’t seen in years. I showed my husband and we both agreed that something MAJOR had changed. What was it? Well, the jury is still out on that and I will be going to see a dermatologist but I really do believe having less to do had something to do with it. What is your body tell you? What area are you out of balance in?

I created this 10-Day Vacation Detox Program for anyone that wants to get healthy, lose 10 pounds or just get back to a healthier lifestyle. I have included 10 days worth of breakfast, lunch and dinner, recipes and a shopping list. It’s my way of giving back to the business community. It cost NOTHING. That’s right…it’s completely free. Our journey begins May 16th. Make sure you sign up on our email list to get the daily emails for encouragement or follow @BusinessWithBridgette on Instagram.

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Power Couples: What to Do When The Purpose Of Your Marriage Isn't Obvious 

It's Anniversary week! This week (May 4th) my husband and I celebrate 4 years of marriage so this weeks blog is for married couples!

We live in an age where people desire to be some definition of something they see as successful. Today it's a career or ministry, tomorrow its marriage, then the house and kids and to cap it off it's the Power Couple.

I'm seeing this term more and more so I wanted to share our story with you in hopes that someone would be encouraged. My husband comes from a background of Pastors, preachers, singers, and musicians. When I met him I said, "You're either a preacher or musician" , he just looked the part. Well, he was a PK (preachers kids) and a well-known drummer here in Dallas (played for a popular mega-church, and many of the major gospel artist) After God confirmed that He was the one for me, I started looking at his background to see if our "purposes" aligned.

At first, I was confused! I don't have a musical bone in my body (well I have a talent to sing in 6 keys at one time; which my husband says is truly a talent...anyway I digress..lol) , I do have a background in church planting but we're both in agreement that Pastoring is NOT our calling (at least not until the Lord opens the skies and says so). When you have seen the rough nitty gritty of the call up close and personal, me in church planting and him as a PK...that's not something you run to do...it's truly a calling. So...where do we go from there? We stopped worrying about it and just said...let's just enjoy our relationship and God will reveal it in time.

My husband is someone I truly look up to because he is so confident in who he is and feels no need or desire to try and fit societies terms of who he is supposed to be on any level. That freedom has ministered to me on many days. It has guided us to realize that our calling as a couple is to other couples. Not only did we know that before we got married, but it has been confirmed through close friends and Pastors as well. But we were barely married. Needless to say, when you are called to something be ready the test are coming! Boy did they come.

Our marriage has been tested on every side it seems in 4 short years and just when we got it worked out, we get pregnant (our miracle birth...I'll share that on another post). A new baby brought new challenges. Where was our purpose in all of this...God was slowly giving us nuggets and revelation through it all!

I wanted to write this post because we not only feel called to married couples. We feel called to couples that aren't your typical "Power Couple" or couples that feel like they are Purpose partners but God is still revealing His idea when He confirmed their marriage. The good news is that even in this area FAITH is required as sometimes you just don't see it. As you walk forward, God reveals His plans. We have found this to be true in our marriage. As we walk forward we see it more and more. 

You see, it's not fair for us to place God in a box. Our boxes are small and narrow-minded but we serve a big, loving, creative God aware of our needs and of His perfect plan. So if you’re like me and my husband and were ever sitting around thinking "How do we fit" Just keep going, praying, enjoying each other and over time God will reveal it to you both! Don't compare your marriage to someone else's because again...God doesn't fit into boxes. Maybe he's called you both to do some trailblazing or something unique or never seen! Our God is so innovative so be open to His ways and remember not to stress about it. Enjoy each other and most importantly enjoy the journey! 

Later this week we will be doing a video. To submit questions for us email us at deonandbridgette@gmail.com