Embracing The Imperfect

There I was; sitting in the Chic-Fil-A drive-thru and both kids, my two year old and my 6 week old at the time are crying and screaming at the top of their lungs in the backseat. It almost sounded like they were having a screaming match. I did what any millennial mom would do, I took a selfie! Lol! I also took a video. I wanted to remember that moment. As crazy as it was I knew these were some of the best days of my life. 

That’s me seeing the brighter side of things. Trust me, I’ve had my fair share of bad days as everything around me seems undone. The laundry is never-ending, the dishes are always needing to be done, there is a new project around the house that is half finished and as soon as I get use to one season we enter new one. (Thank you Jesus! 🤨)

Even now, we’re in a season of transition as I’m taking on new projects and going after dreams I thought were once dead. I’m trying to figure out what stays and what goes. Everything on my plate can’t stay. I’m trying to find my way and manaeuver through unknown waters but you know where I’ve found my peace....it’s when I embrace imperfect. Even now, it’s 1:52am and I have the longest day tomorrow but my newborn is interested in playing “stick the paci in my mouth and watch me spit it out over and over or I’ll cry.” 🤷🏽‍♀️ I’m embracing imperfect. 

The cure to my overwhelm has been asking this one question “what is the priority in this moment?” When I get the answer, I decide to focus on just that. Everything will stay left undone. I can’t do it all so might as well focus on the most important task. That’s me embracing imperfect. So if your like me and you need a chill pill, take a moment, hug your babies and see the beauty of that moment.  

I know, sometimes it’s all ugly. Trust me, my toddler reminds me of that daily...but just try. We can find a million negative things that are wrong, but what about what is right. Stare at that, draw strength from it. We have a long journey ahead of us...but I’m rooting you on. We’re in this together Sis. #LetsGoHigher 

Re-Routing Through Life

Hey Friends! 

My last blog was last year in October 2017. It was at that time that I was just getting over being really sick from my first trimester of pregnancy with my second child. I'm happy to report that I gave birth to a HEALTHY baby boy named Josiah! I have made some changes and wanted to update all my friends and followers. 

First, this website is no longer called "Business With Bridgette". While I am still "consulting" on a case by case basis, I felt limited in what I can write about and share on this blog. Anyone that knows me knows that I do not like boxes, and I felt a little boxed in with the topics on this website. This website is now called "Doing Life With Bridgette." I will expand the topics to anything that has to do with faith, family, marriage, entrepreneurial moms, or just tips that I am finding in life that works for me. It will be more of lifestyle blog/website. 

I will also be offering e-courses in other areas as well. It is my goal to have free and paid e-courses to help women prosper. in life I pray that by visiting you will be empowered as a wife and mom and feel inspired in faith, family and business. I truly believe that is my purpose in life. 

Olivia Sophia Stationery will be re-launching again in a few weeks with new products which I'm excited about so that is still going on. We took a small break as I prepared for my second child but we are excited to get going again. 

ALSO.....I have a vlog channel now that I upload to every week. It is my opportunity to share the behind the scenes of my life (it's really normal) but it is also the platform that I will be sharing the "Just Walk With Me" web series. Just click here to learn more about that web series. 

That's all for now. I have set plan on blogging, but will update you all as needed. Until next time lovelies! Reach out if you have a questions or need help in a certain area. 

My Crazy Journey of Growing A Business While Growing A Family

Unexpected. That's the word to describe the last 90 days of our family life. Finding out I was pregnant was unexpected but very much so welcomed (our second miracle that I'll share more about later), getting crazy sick (first trimester sick) because I thought I was lactose intolerant and gluten intolerant while losing 10 lbs in one week at 10 weeks pregnant. Feeling like I was going to die because I literally have never felt so bad in my life (yea it was bad). That lasted 4 weeks. Finally went to the GI doctor and realized I could eat diary and didn't have Celiac disease but should probably stay away from gluten and sugar alcohols because of how it made me feel. Once I finally got over the life adjustment to eating a gluten free diet with very little sugar I get a really bad allergy cold. Okay...here we go! The DAY I start feeling better Olivia gets a 103.9 fever and my focus shifts to making sure she gets better. Thankfully my mom was flying down to visit and was able to take care of Olivia and help me get my life in order. Olivia gets better and the DAY she has no fever, I come down with ANOTHER virus resulting in vomiting (sorry TMI) and just a full blown cold again! I was like really! I felt like my body was attacking me and as we speak I'm still losing weight. Don't worry, the baby is fine. My doctors are not worried after a quick check up  as long as I'm taking my pre-natal vitamins and continuing to eat (there was one point I was afraid to eat because of how it made me feel). I also had room to lose weight...apparently 🤷🏽‍♀️. Now after all of that was going on, which is only a tip of the iceberg, (didn't want to gross you all out too much) you might be wondering how I was able to keep up with our businesses. Truthfully...I wasn't. 

I know my limits. I needed to rest and allow my body to go through whatever craziness it was taking me through while I was in the beginning stages of building a person! Gosh women are powerful beings! Boom! 💁🏽

So what is going on with my businesses? Here is where we are with the two main businesses that we promote on social media:  

1.) Olivia Sophia Stationery is available to order the products in stock. I'm taking it week by week in terms of new releases and products that I want to get out there for Christmas. The systems we have set up run themselves so we just fill orders as needed. I'll teach on this topic later.

2. Our latest course on "How to launch your own Stationery or Gifts Online Store" was in big demand that we decided to do it again. The date will probably be in November. 

3. Most don't know this but I don't do one-on-one coaching anymore. I stopped doing that back in May 2017. It started to get overwhelming with all my clients and truly I just saw an smarter way to teach. I realized I'd rather teach every month on topics that are commonly asked in my one-one-one programs which is what I do now as needed. 

4. I took off 2 months to pray about all my businesses and what God wanted to do with them. He finally gave me a solid plan a few weeks ago but I can only move forward when my body allows so that's on hold until my body catches up. I know my limits. Hopefully it won't be long. I have things to do! Lol. (That's the worker bee in me speaking)

I have learned that when you aren't in a race with anyone your free to rest, take time off and adjust as life happens and life will happen! That doesn't mean your a failure, your not focused or whatever else lie the enemy or the perfect good ole social media tries to feed you. You're okay right where you are. These are words I've had to encourage myself with over the last 90 days. Bridgette, it's going to be okay...your building a person!

 Let's pray: 

"God, I pray for the person reading this. They may be in a place of unknown or constantly having to react to life. Lord give them peace and let them know how much you are right there with them. God I pray for that mother that feels overwhelmed or that business owner that feels stuck. Lord...helps us to disconnect from the world and reconnect with you our source of peace, strength and direction. In Jesus Name...Amen!" 

Today...I feel a bit better. Who knows how tomorrow will be so I'm learning to capitalize off the "moments". I have burst of energy or moments of feeling good. Whatever I can get done in that moment...that's all there is. God has blessed me with an amazing supportive husband! He's picked up where I couldn't which is like a ton! Pregnancy and raising a toddler ain't no joke! (Excuse my grammar but that's how I felt it)

If you don't see me much online...know that I'm resting and I've decided to focus on my new profession of being a professional body builder! Lol. 🤰🏽

I can't wait to be a mom of two and grow our family! It really is the best time of my life and even with all the pains...I wouldn't trade it! There is some exciting things happening in our businesses and I can't wait to share when I get well! One thing we still do is our weekly marriage life group! Visit us on Instagram at @marriageandgrace and sign up to be apart of group! See you all around! 

When Your Passion Doesn't Equal Profit

We have heard this phrase many times before "Follow your passion and the profit will follow". I think many people embraced this concept but somewhere along the path, they began to feel frustration. If that is you then this blog is for you or someone you know. 

I have found a few issues with the phrase stated above:

1.) Sometimes what you are passionate about does not work in a "system". What people focus on is the passion creation and not the system creation. Those that find profit in their passions have figured out a way to create a "system" around their passions. It is not your passion that generates income it's the systems around your passion that you put in place in your business that run like a well-oiled machine. What I mean by systems is the process from acquiring a customers (marketing), them purchasing from you (internal operations #1), the customer receiving the service or product (internal operations #2), and the after purchase process (follow-up).  Knowing each part individually and inside and out and the data connected to them will help you create systems that work. 

2.) Passionate people want to do the "work". It's not work to them so they do what they love but the business will only ever grow beyond how much that one person can do. Which is why again, you must create a system. I think it is totally okay to start off with just yourself doing all the work. Find out the good and bad parts, tweak and then when you ready to scale you have the foundation in place. The second step is to create a document or video that will help your employees do what you do without giving away your "secret" sauce. Also leave a competitive edge by giving them what they need without giving away everything. That leads me to my next point. 

3.) Have something unique about your passion that sets you apart and makes it uniquely you. If your growing a brand, I always tell people to share the story behind the brand. No one can recreate your story because it is unique to you and your life. That is your fingerprint. If you have a product that you want to sell take your time, as much time as you need to figure out how to set your product apart from all the others out there. You may even want to look into getting it patented before you launch out. It will be your signature piece! 

4.) Don't be surprise if profiting takes a little bit of time. It DOES take time. This is not an overnight success type of thing. Your work will pay off if you keep on going. Tweak what doesn't work, remove the bad part, try something new but keep on going. Never allow your lack of profit to hinder you from learning the vital lessons about what is not working. Even when you are "failing" you are progressing as long as you see it as an opportunity to learn and not a set back. 

5.) As you know my blog is about faith, family and business. One of the TOP things I do in my own life and business when it comes to profit is ALWAYS tithe off of your gross sales. Tithing is when you give 10% back to God (local church). God doesn't need your money, He wants your heart and our money is often times connected to deep places in our hearts. He can do so much more with your 90% than you can with your 100%. I am a living witness! Tithing has been the single most powerful thing in my own life. I tithe monthly off of all my business sales. I make it a habit to do it when I am reconciling the month. I like to see the profit, expenses, and then how much I owe God. I take care of God first then everyone else comes second. Also, don't forget an offering. Tithing and offering go hand in hand. Ask your Pastor to learn more. 

I share with you all things that I personally have gone through. The reason I am able to share these 5 tips is because I was that entrepreneur going after her passion but was seeing very little profit. I was the person doing all the work and never realizing their was no systems in place. I was the person that didn't see the power in tithing and offering. I was also the person that failed enough to learn and make the correct changes. This is what I want for you. Until next time lovely.....let's go higher!